Mommy and Me

Who knew that a little trip to the Southwest would turn me all sentimental and introspective? There’s a chance this post won’t make much sense. Bear with me; those two days in my old home town feel important and I need to find a way to distill all that’s going through my head.

I spent 4 years in the Valley of the Sun soon after college.  I definitely had a love/hate relationship with Arizona, but those years had profound impact – not only did I find a career, it’s where I first learned how to adult. Of course, I moved for all the wrong reasons (a boy, duh), and possibly stayed for the wrong reasons, but I appreciate those tumultuous times, and especially the life-long friendships I gained.

A new friend who brings coffee AND wants to talk bourbon? Yippee!!

Fast forward a bunch of years, and the twinnie invited me to meet her at a conference. I planned on writing and seeing friends while she worked, and twinnie time when she was free. What I did not anticipate was that this trip would shift me somehow. I found myself in numerous starter conversations with the sorts of strangers you meet while traveling (hotel staff and guests, fellow travelers, the lady in the sauna). In that, I had to address my least favorite small talk question: “so, what do you do?”

My brain on mommyhood – lots of bits and pieces. Now I want toffee!!

Too many people still get that, ‘oh, you’re just a mom?’ look. It makes me want to scream. There is a lot of physical and emotional work in raising kids. There is nothing ‘just’ about it and I’m proud of what I’m doing.

While it’s the most important thing I will ever do, I have recently rediscovered life beyond mommyhood. Starting this blog, and trying to launch a business, I’m busier than ever, but I’m also more content. I’m taking chances, leaping out of my comfort zone, and it’s exhilarating.

Baking, Blogging and Momming, oh my!

The icing on the cake – I’ve finally, finally realized that taking time for me isn’t selfish; it’s an investment. I loved this chance to reconnect  and reminisce with dear friends. I came away with a lot to think about (thanks, Squish!) and newfound admiration for the chances I took in my Arizona years and the people who helped me along the way.

Whether it’s a bit of drunken shenanigans (hah, birthday weekend!), or a more subdued trip to AZ, me-time allows me to be a better and more fulfilled Mama for my girls. Hopefully it makes me a more pleasant and interesting wife and friend too, but I guess that’s for you guys to decide. Meanwhile, I’ll be here, juggling my jobs of mom-ing, baking, writing and ideally a bourbon before the night is out.

I’ve even taken to making up cocktails!

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